Tonight I am really on a RANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I started this website, blog and pages to help people like me to have a judgement free zone to VENT. To be able to think and do things that we feel are best for our families.
I am not a doctor BUT I am a very in tune mom who KNOWS her kid!! I resent doctors that dismiss your knowledge. I struggled with changing pediatricians because I LOVE her and she really was on the money with my son. My only problem is that I seek alternative treatments and although she was very supportive of my tactics she could offer me no guidance there. I normally just go to the chiropractor and make my “potions” and play nurse. I could tell you day by day when he gets sick exactly what is going to happen. Every cough and sneeze following a pattern I know only to well. How long before I have to take out the ultimate poison..the nebulizer?? How many nights of sleep will be lost , how many days of school missed and how many activities cancelled?? It is a constant pattern.
What kills me is I do everything to try to avoid this. I try to do organic foods and a clean diet although it isn’t easy when everyone isn’t on board. It is evident to me after he ate ice cream the other day with his father that dairy or milk in particular is a trigger. From the minute they got home he was congested, watery eyed etc. Thankfully after I pointed it out my husband did see the correlation.
In this month alone he has been not well 3 times!! In my opinion one of the times he was detoxing from adding supplements to his diet. Funny because the new pediatrician md/homoepath I ended up taking him to suggested them. After taking them for over a week one night my son awakens burning up and complaining of a headache. NOT a usual occurence. He rarely gets fever and has never complained of a headache. As I have been reading on the 4As, Asthma,Allergies, ADHD and Autism I have learned the toxic catalysts in these new “epidemics”. I also knew the supplements he gave me were to detox the body. SO WHY when I tell the new dr about this he says “oh that’s a virus”. Like again stupid lady I am the dr. He says well what can I help you with? I said well since we have seen you a few weeks ago my son has had 3 weeks of sick!! (The thing I hate is if he gave me the supplements with the goal to better him why would you negate or shrug off the possibility it was his body doing what it should!! ) I was hoping for more homeopathic advice or at best confirming the whole detox process. I asked if there was anything I could do for his allergies and he said the season didn’t begin yet. MEANWHILE he, like me. are very sensitive to any weather change which we have had. Anyway he offered me no different advice then my beloved pediatrician.
I guess I am ranting because I need someone to listen. I am frustrated because I know were the problems lie BUT my knowledge only goes so far. Why must you be a “CRAZY” mom or dad for that matter when you seek more! I know we have come a long way and I have learned so much and apply it daily. I know there are others not as fortunate a me and my heart goes out to them. It’s just so frustrating knowing the health of our kids can be eradicated with the right direction. It is sad that most of us aren’t in a financial situation to obtain outside help beyond insurance. It is sad that our food supply and medications are being poisoned and when you open your mouth…YOU ARE CRAZY..WELL I have been called worse things and for my son I will move heaven and earth.
This crazy mamma will keep opening my mouth and one day I will be heard.
Please stand with me. Rant and help others rant. Let us gain information to help and support us “CRAZY” mammas!!!
I have had a heavy heart remembering a birthday of a dear friend that was taken away. She would have been 45. She was the closest thing I had to a sister and although we had periods of time we didn’t speak the bond was never questioned.
To my knowledge after her divorce she started dating someone and it became abusive and she tried to break it off. Unfortunately that didn’t happen. [Please note as I tell this story it is second hand information but all I have as she can’t corfirm it.] This strong women who never took nonsense from anyone became a victim. Most people think of a weak person as someone who would suffer abuse. I guess a weakness would be a better analogy. A bad divorce and the loss of a loved one perhaps caused vulnerability who knows. Also being a parent and fearing for your children’s safety.
After I saw a post on Facebook on her moms page a part of me died! I was confused and didn’t understand. I still don’t understand. I have read news reports and spoken to others as she lived in another state so I have no first hand info.
Funny how authorities almost fault her for her death. She got orders of protection etc but never followed through and in most opinions because he was threatening her safety and her children. From what it says she was doing all she could but shocking as it is the system failed her!
I guess my point is even the strongest of people can be abused. It breaks my heart today and everyday. I wish I knew what was happening so maybe I could have helped. I know she stayed away because she knows I would have. I hope she is at peace as living in fear is worse than death. I also hope justice will be served.
Moral of the story is, never turn your back because you think someone is strong enough. One never knows what goes on behind closed doors. No one deserves to be terrorized or abused and certainly shouldn’t be blamed being on the receiving end. Until you walk in someone’s shoes never pass judgment. Sometimes you will be amazed at what people go through and contend with.
As I sit with my heavy heart I remind you to value the people you hold near. One thing I do know is she knew how much she meant to me. She also knew I would have put myself in harms way to help or perhaps save her. Never take relationships for granted. Always tell people how you feel and cherish them. So many people aren’t worth the breath it takes BUT the few that are will be worth the effort.
How many of you have good friends? My grandmother once said if you can count on one hand your real friends you have lived a good life. Thankfully I have more years to get there!
Funny how when you are younger your friends can make or break you. Are you popular, pretty, smart and likable? In my experience those things can work against you. As a girl the more attractive you are the more the boys “like” you and the girls DONT. Add out spoken and honest and well thank god for men! Lol..
Unfortunately some women are not able to have stable female relationships or they are rare and far between. Male and female relationships once the sex is removed can prove to be quite good. The hard thing with that is in men are rarely emotional so there is a big dynamic missing.
I personally have great male friends that have been there for me through thick and thin. My female relationships not so much. I have had many friends in my life but only a few that I hold dear. Funny how life changes as so do your needs. I have been fortunate that my “friends” have served their purposes during my path. There are those friends you can call on a dime if you need them but those same friends can go out down the block from you and don’t call to invite you. Then there are the friends you talk to after months of not talking and you pick up were you left off. Then there are the friends you call when you need sound advice you can count on.
Life gets very busy as people gain careers and families. Sometimes just getting to the phone is an impossibility.
What I have realized is a solid family life alleviates the need for such friends. When you have a family and they are your priority things become very clear. I used to put others in front of myself. Through many broken hearts I have learned now how to pick and choose. I do thank the people in my life good and bad that have taken me to this point.
My best advice is to gain a best friend in your spouse and god willing you will always have them behind you!
Anyone want to share their friendship experiences?
So as I read on some of your blogs I see I have much room for improvement. I could use input and advice on how to include info (creating link using the word for instance). How to get people engaged?
My purpose is to pass on info I come across but mostly just to rant. A place were parents can discuss, complain or even bitch about what’s going on. A non judgemental zone especially if you think outside the box! People read and sometimes like my blogs and fb rants but no one engages in the RANT.
Can anyone help a newbee?
This is certainly a rant! I start this by saying I have one of the good guys He is a hard worker and in spite of my “crazy” antics he loves me to death!! Oh and a great father! THAT BEING SAID………… News brief to all. Although I am grateful that I am with my lil man 24/7 NEVER underestimate how hard that job is! Being home with your child is BY FAR the hardest job. I am also blessed with a child who loves life and doesnt want to miss a second of it! So when you are on your 25th hour and your spouse comes home from work and complains of what a long day they have you want to through something at them!!!
Being tired can put a strain on any relationship.
Always treasure the person who has put themselves aside to care for you! Last night was my first night without a call for mommie. Meanwhile my spouse is still sleeping while I have been awake since 5am ish! Yeah lets see….hmmm why am I a cranky “crazy” mamma?! 😉
I welcome your comments..